and i agree, being the cold mother i am too, even after her punishment and she is all affectionate, i will tell her i am still upset and disappointed with her for behaving like that and doing what i do not like. it will continue until she gives me a weepy/sobby “mummy, I sorry I throw tantrum/don’t listen to you”. hehe. after a while when she sees that i am cooled down, she will sidle up to me and ask if i will still tuck her in at night.

in the evening, she always asks us “am i good girl today?” “so far so good” i say. “so this means u will tuck me in?” “only if u behave until bed time”. hahaha!

sometimes i wonder if i’m doing the right thing – withholding affection – but it seems to work. emotional blackmail is a weapon only mothers can skillfully wield :P