i realised that i didn’t manage to officially wish ourselves a happy 5th anniversary at the end of last month. oops.
well, we were kinda away during that period, after all.
and along with our anniversary was, of course, the husband’s birthday (which we celebrated at tony roma’s in The Pavillion, KL, as you can see above). as i was keying in his age in the photo captions, making a mental calculation (and re-calculation), i realised that he’s turned 31… which means that – horror of horrors – i’ll be turning 31 in a few months too!
31! THIRTY-FREAKING-ONE!! *hyperventilates*
hookaaay.
so aaanyway, i just suddenly remembered something significant that i blogged about 5 years ago, while we were still engaged and preparing for the whole marriage thing.
and whaddaya know, i managed to dig it up from our archive. 
April 07, 2003
vision/delusion?woke up this morning and looked out the window, it was such a gorgeous day, clear sky, something abt the air, just simply beautiful. and in the cab ride on my way to marine parade cc, it was such a calm, peaceful sunday on the ecp, i felt happy watching the trees go by outside the window. told izad abt it later and he had the same vibe. that’s the one thing abt us that i so love from the beginning, the way we connect at some weird emotional level, like our very own frequency, our personal radio station (even our playlist usually uncannily coincides!).
anyway, we began a journey of discovery today, to prepare ourselves for “the mystical world of marriage”. the obligatory prep course for soon-to-be-wed couples. a lot of the hundred plus participants were on average our age, which was no surprise seeing that ours is a prime age for, ahem, wedded bliss.
guess what… it turned out to be… pretty fun, i have to say. enlightening, informative, hilarious even… (gosh, muis must be feeling real good abt themselves if they hear this). i think they’re doing a good job, despite some criticisms i’ve heard from friends abt how this course was an insult to their intelligence, etc. maybe i’m a marriage goondu idiot savant, but it sure cleared up a number of doubts i’d had. for example, the unsettling question marks i had abt maskawin vs hantaran. now i know (and appreciate) the reasons and rationale behind them.
one of the quirky exercises they made us do was make each of us draw what we felt was the “vision” we had for our marriage, how we see ourselves five years from now. i was a little dumbfounded – i could hardly see beyond 6 mths from now! anyway, all my years of stick figure-drawing skills went poof. i made a hasty attempt nonetheless. for some reason, material things were the only things i could put down on paper. a window of a house with a car sitting outside, a spiky-haired man with his arms around a svelte (hah!) woman, a spiky-haired toddler in between, a sofa (didn’t have time or resources to think of more interesting items, eg. rows of cd racks, shelves of books, playstation…) and a laptop (coz i know izad will still have his gadget obsession). it was only later that i realised – i forgot to put a book in the kid’s hands. i think that is one of the most important things in the world – to nurture the love of reading in a child. yes. must make mental post-its abt that.
and then we exchanged drawings with our partners….
izad on the other hand is an ambitious guy. stick figures of a spiky-haired man, a woman (with a *mole* on the face, can you believe the details!), TWO children (one girl and one boy), TWO cars (one family spacewagon and one beetle for ME), and a condo BY THE BEACH (complete with two starfishes).
er, looks like we’re gonna have some “discussing” to do, apparently, arising from certain disparities in our “vision”….
Posted by nurhana at 01:12 AM
ok, was that weird or what?? LOL!
gosh, if only we knew how close we were back then to realising our so-called 5-year vision. (ok fine, with the exception of MY beetle and the condo BY THE BEACH, dang it.)
i don’t think we were even serious at the time we did that exercise, i think we forgot we ever did it even. but miraculously, things somehow… fell into place, just as we envisioned it 5 years ago, albeit in more or less physical terms.
coz yes, he’s still a spiky-haired man. sure, i may perhaps be less than svelte but the mole is certainly still there ha ha. the two children, one girl and one boy, definitely happened. the boy toddler has his spiky-haired moments. the car, the house, the sofa, the laptop, and heck even the playstation (can you believe a certain spiky-haired gadget-obsessed person just added a ps3 to his collection a few days ago??) exist and have become a reality.
and so, for all that, i am grateful, and blessed, and amazed, and could not ask for more.
(… well… of course, if i *did* have my own car and a place by the beach – with starfishes, no less – well, that *would* be kinda cool… kidding! :p)
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