i have a very “on” bunch of aunts on my mum’s side, and on the rare occasion that one particular ‘prodigal’ aunt flies down from her brisbane home for a holiday here with her two kids to see their aged grandma and grandpa, they’d always attempt to get everyone together for a photo-taking session. coz everytime, it’s always in mind that it could be the last that the complete family gathers under one roof, and the last opportunity we’d have to take a picture with our two elderly for posterity.
it was, to say the least, GAMAT. :D
the first and second generation
the third generation of grandchildren (two more girls cut off on the right) – i TOLD ya we have too many boys!
the fourth generation of great-grandsons – see, what’d i tell ya, MORE boys!
i think that’s the nice thing about having a big family like my mum’s – the “on-ness”. eight siblings, eight individuals, eight nuclear families, one solid foundation.
being in a two-sibling family, i can see the vast difference in our own lack of “on-ness” compared to theirs. perhaps because they’re older, their solidarity forged from growing up and playing together, fending and looking out for one another, helping out each other in times of need, simply surviving hard times together. or perhaps because we come from a different generation, us who more or less grew up in an individualistic, self-sufficient environment, with little or no crises to test our strengths.
i’m quite sure we won’t be able to churn out as many kids as our grandparents did in their time, it’s certainly not possible given our current age and, well, lifestyle. but as few as our own children will be, i hope they’ll grow up being “on”, always remembering their old farty parents, who used to bring them to many exciting places and do many exciting things with and for them, like throwing nice little parties on their birthdays. :p
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people in those times get married early (like 15/16) so they have ample time to make lots a babies, especially if they have one baby each year. plus they usually either stay together under one roof, or live in houses nearby in their kampong hence easier to look-out for one another (e.g mak keluar jual kuih, the kakak or abang will jaga the adik.)
…kalau kita kahwin at 15 pun by now dah ada 10 kids agaknya…:D
Ya lor.. If I marry early I think I will sure have more at least 4 kids.. Coz I like big families.. Lucky there’s 4 of us in my family.. & my sis oredi have 4 kids.. In future mine then my younger sis kids.. Ok lah.. quite big also lah.. I like..! Pasal when you gather its’ SO fun & kecoh..
Which reminds me I have a family chalet coming up after raya haji..! Hehehe…
haaa, 10 anaks??! errr… im not so sure leh. if i got pregnant at 15, i masok halfway house and tobat agaknye! and there goes my baby-making career. :p
ah pina, ur family also very ons one, ako tgk asik buat chalet jer! my aunts will hv potluck every week, and they hv like a roster system to send my grandparents for check ups. think they’re v lucky!
wahh!! i like to see the big family photo….hepi gitu. my paternal grandma has 19 kids of which 8 dah arwah…..
but the rest cant meet eye to eye….always squabbling baik kejap dah bertekak lagik…and they the aunties are
the ones who always gadoh among them. the men roc tak masok campur….lol!!
p/s: your mom look like yr grandma eh.
really? i guess the downside of some with big families is the conflicts..
and yah, my mum looks like my grandma, and i look like mum (according to everyone who’s ever met us). the 3 of us have moles over our upper lips too! mine’s same side as my grandma. :)
Alah.. tis squabbles ahh very common in malay family lah.. My aunt & uncles pun sumtimes bila baik bukan main baik but when gadoh ahh habis ahh.. Very typical melayu style.. I cnt be bothered. Sometimes they quarrel pasal benda merepek.. & sumtimes orang tua-tua ni mcm budak kecik, bear grudges lah… tu lah.. Sumtimes malas nak layan.. I so many times kena shhot wif their laser hokay..but family punya pasal I take it with a pinch of salt lor… Blood is thicker then water u see..
i agree. conflicts in families are unavoidable.. tak kiralah big or small family. rambut sama hitam, hati kan lain2. selalunye kalau yg terselit PHD (paham eh), tu yg bahaya. virus beb. it can trigger conflicts.. sampai main tak geng tak geng. & if u hv heard, ade yg terlalu mengikutkan bisikan syaitan, sampai “main kotor” pun ade.. harap dijauhkan benda terkutuk ni. very childish kan. dlm globalisasi ni pun masih ade org yg berfikiran cetek. it happened to my own ipar-duai(hubby side) ish.. ish.. ish.. lucky i’m not involved. kata org, ada telinga dengar, ada mata lihat, ada mulut kunci. sebab mulut lah badan binasa.
wow a very big family eh uve got there..
n hana u noe smtg ur mum n e sis sblh her w/o e tudung looks alike & u too looke like them lah.. :)
i’d LURVE to organize one photo session for my nenek too. but the logistical prep will be a nightmare. let’s see.. 2 uncles, 1 aunt n mom in SG, 1 aunt in jb, another in kl. 7 cucus in SG, 4 in jb, 2 in kl, 1 each in UK and scotland. plus 2 cicits in jb and 0 in SG. :p
fegeddit. even us 3 cuzzins in SG nak amik grad pic togeder pun tak menjadi-jadi.
all over the place eh, su? yah, thats why it’s good to make it a point to do this when everyone’s in the country at the same time.
mebe u shd try booking all of them over for a family reunion. nanti keluar kat BH. :)
yah, a lot of ppl say i look like my younger aunts too…
wah yanty, ‘PHD, main kotor’.. ni sumer new words to me!! seramnye… we dun hv such things leh. but ya hor, like fina says, it’s quite, err, typical melayu isn’t it? :S
oh my goodness!!! aida and caliph dah besar!!!! =) cik izah dah “sihat” sikit. bila entah i will get to see her & her 2 kids…
hana, i’m so sorry if i scare u off with my comments.. i’m very sure ur family dun fall under dat category who play “dirty tricks”. FYI, PHD = Perasaan Hasad Dengki. pple out there who has this virus adalah mereka yg tak bleh tengok org lain hidup senang. aniwae, i suka cara ur aunties buat roster to bring ur grandparents for check-up. muafakat membawa berkat :) aman dunia akhirat.
man that’s a lot of boys! :)
Manyak boys! And the littlest ‘uns can sit still long enough to bergambar.. Wowzer..
can i juz check wif u, in the first pic, the man in blue shirt & blue jeans, does he stay in lenkong tiga? coz he really look familair.
hey liz, u live in one of the lengkong houses too?? :)
alah yati, didn’t take long before they started tumbling all over the place, lol! wonder if the photographer managed to catch a decent shot at all!
oh yes hetty, waaay too many boys lor! someone has to break the ‘charm’ soon… hehe.
no worries yanty, thanks for sharing!
i think you’ll def get to meet them some time, nur. they’re staying for three weeks!
how i wish i can stay in one of those houses. hehehehe….no lah…juz dat he really look familiar from hubby side of family….
your hubby’s side? hmm, intriguing! then again, it’s a small world.. :)